okay, let's see if i can make this short yet say everything i want to say. if you didn't read part 1, please do so by scrolling down to yesterday's post. there i said the difference i noticed in kids who were home schooled and those not, has had the biggest impact on my opinions of home schooling.
as a youthworker, i can't help but notice how stressed-out and beat-down a lot of the kids in my youth group are. as i take the time to listen to their stories and get to know them better, i've come to realize how the time they spend in a public/private school environment impacts them.
but this issue has more to do with the social aspect of school, not the educational. it has to do with the other students they hang around with and the microcosm of school life. and although i care about the educational side and know how important it is, it's the social aspect that makes me scream for change and see the advantages of home schooling your kids.
i saw this aspect play out personally in my own family. my daughter, danielle, suffered during her middle school years. this is the first time i considered home schooling for my family. had i felt more confident in my abilities, i would have yanked her out and started right away. she was being attacked by "mean girls" and the little self-confidence she had was eroding quickly. she made it through but chose a different high school to go to. it wasn't easy for her, but she made it through and now is doing well in college.
this is why i say home schooled kids are more self-assured, self-confident. they are not exposed to this life consisting of students looking for their place, for acceptance at the expense of others. they aren't beaten down on a daily basis. kids and parents alike are unaware and don't understand how this affects how johnny and susie survive and who they become because of it. it's sad to watch, and even sadder knowing there's really nothing you can do to change it for a student. i could write a book on this subject, so i'll end this part here.
the other thing i wanted to share was about my other child, my son, jake. he is a very bright child. he's smarter than his mom and dad combined. so when i think about his education, i'm glad he's attending public school. of course, we're in a very good school district and he's part of a higher level curriculum program.
he's going into his fourth year in the internatinal baccalaureate (i.b.) program. this has been a great program for him. it has challenged him and given him a fantastic education. it teaches it's students how to learn as opposed to teaching them what to learn. and if he does well on his i.b. tests, he can knock off up to two years of college.
i tell you all of this because i can't even imagine trying to home school this kid. he's been in advanced classes since elementary school. it was obvious at an early age that he needed to be challenged. and i don't think i would have done him justice if i had home schooled him. i don't think i could have offered him what the school district has given him.
but i want to be clear... this is a reflection on me, not on home schooling. i'm sure there are many bright kids out there being home schooled. and that their teacher(s) have given them curriculum that challenges them and has brought them into higher levels of education. this just goes towards my thinking that not everyone is cut out or qualified to be a teacher or to home school their children. i think home schoolers can agree with me on this.
i want to close this with what many feel and others have said. home schooling shouldn't divide us as much as it has. we shouldn't be so judgemental of either side because we should know what works for some, doesn't work for others. we should embrace the differences and then learn from them. we, as parents, need to do what we think is best for our children, and then not be judged for those decisions.
thank you for taking the time to read all of this. i would love to hear your thoughts on home schooling and/or on what i have written here.
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